Why lies?!!

For better or for worse, our romantic relationships are not always as straightforward as we would like them to be. From time to time, our intimate relationships can become complicated and complex - full of contracditions and inconsistencies.

When comes to love and marriage, everybody expect a spouse to be completely honest. But, at the same time, everyone values their sense of freedom and privacy. So, while romantic partners typically want to please each other, at other times, couples experience competing goals which can make telling the truth more difficult to see.

If love was straightforward and unchanging, that would be easy to acknowledge. But when you take a close look at the nature of love and romance, one thing becomes clear:- LOVE created both happiness and heartache, opportunities and constraints, joy and sorrow. For the most part, spouses are considerate, honest and kind. But at the same time, they betrayed those their love. Unfortunately, deception comes in handy when people want to limit their partner's choice, avoid conflict or punishment, or when people want to influence their partner's behaviour.

And while it is not uncommon for people to lie and cheat, it is difficult to accept that one's own husband or wife might be doing so. Who hasn't caught lying only to have him or her deny it - "I would never lie to you."

Not only can our close relationships sometimes cause heartache and anxiety, but it is also difficuly to discuss lying and cheating out in the open. When you mention the possibility that love and betrayal might go hand-in-hand, people tend to get angry or they become defensives.